You’re starring at your boss’s face with shock about what you’ve just heard. Your brain seems numb, your feet are cold and your heart is racing fast. You’re a loyal person and you’re great at what you do. You know you’ve got talents.
The news you heard seem to contradict everything you’ve thought about yourself.
You’ve been let go. You feel rejected and unappreciated.
What are you going to do next? How are you going to pay your bills? What’s your life going to look like? How are you going to face everyone with this news?
Part of you is experiencing FREEDOM, you can do whatever the heck you want now but, you also feel embarrassment and shame. You believe that you’ve failed in what you thought you do best.
You’re questioning what you want out of life, what you’re meant to do here on earth. You feel lost and confused about what to do next and most of all part of you could not identify with your strengths, with your qualities and with the meaning of life outside of your old job.
10 powerful steps to heal and start over with more self confidence and power:
- Seek help: Express your pain to someone you trust, including your coach or therapist.
- Forgive yourself: It’s much more honorable to do mistakes in life than to do nothing at all. Admit your mistakes and learn from them.
- Focus on what you already have: It’s easy to fall into the trap of greed and ungratefulness. God has given you tons of resources, use them to build a new plan for yourself. Give yourself more love and surround yourself with nurturing people ONLY. That means, you may need to say NO to uncle Tony and your friend Lucy.
- Enjoy life: Your life does not revolve around any job. Your essence can never be changed no matter what negative or positive experience you’ve been through. Use the little time you have to take a deep breath and heal from this experience. Go have fun – take a break from work! This is your chance to rejuvenate and find a new you.
- Find peace at times of war: Practice Pranayama, Meditate for at least 10 minutes a day and sweat it off through yoga or jogging or whatever works for you. This will help alleviate your anxiety and bring you back to the present moment.
- Find your mission in life: whether your decide to stay in your field or make a career change, it’s important to identify what you’re here on earth for. It will give you deeper meaning in life and a deeper satisfaction that no job and no one will ever give you.
Here’s a format you can use to clarify your mission:
I’ll use __________ and _________ to help__________ by doing _________. It’s important because ____________and _______ will benefit from it.
- Identify your strengths: You may be unaware of the values you give to others. Ask at least 20 people around you to list your top 5 best qualities. You can also do the strengthfinder test and combine your top qualities with the ones that you were given by others. Find the common thread between all of them.
- Employed or self-employed: Decide whether you want to pursue working for other people or starting your own business. If you still can’t figure out what your passionate about, check out this episode of Super Life channel.
- Build a strong resume: Reflect your personality, strengths and passion in your resume or portfolio. Keep it related to the job you’re applying for.
- Believe in your power: Be truthful about what you want. When you’re honest, people will feel safer, valued, and more comfortable around you. This is the KEY to feeling appreciated, happy and successful in your job. Before you take a job, get to know the company culture and values from the inside-out. Be curious about them and see if they’re aligned with your values and needs.
You’re not alone in this. Many have been laid off (including myself) and I can promise you that your struggles won’t last forever and you’ll be able to move on.
But please, Don’t sell yourself for cheap! You deserve a good life and this is a good chance for you to explore your options and find deeper meaning in life. Challenges are part of life but your perception about these experiences is what matters most. So, the sooner you snap out of the “poor me”, the faster you can heal.
I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments: What was it like to get laid off or to experience any kind of loss? There’s no judgement here – I’m just curious about the emotions we “humans” go through when we experience loss.