Don’t we all want to be more loved? What is life without being loved? It feels meaningless and empty – right?
Many of us think that the only way to feel more loved is through getting it from someone else outside of us. Well, there is a little bit of truth about that except that no one can make us feel what is already not there in the first place.
No one can make you feel loved if you don’t embody love itself and for any of us to feel love – we must give it first.
Love and kindness go hand in hand together. We can’t scream at someone or abuse someone verbally then ask them to give us love.
We can’t complain about how unloving the world is when we are not doing anything to make it a kinder place for everyone to be in (including ourselves).
So, for any of us to experience more love we first must Be love and Be kind and then we can only experience what we are through giving them to someone – in fact to everyone.
There is no excuse for any of us not be kind with one another – yet we often forget to even be kind to ourselves when our focus is so much geared towards the “DOING” instead of “BEING” – SUCH AS BEING KIND, BEING LOVE, BEING SUPPORTIVE, PATIENT ect….
ACIM says: “Giving and receiving are on in truth”.
This is such a beautiful mantra and it is indeed so true. When we give love to someone, we experience ourselves as being loving. When we give our time to someone, we experience ourselves as helpful and generous. So, even though we are doing these acts of kindness towards others, we are also doing them for ourselves since we must be kind in order for us to act with kindness.
Everything emits energy whether it was positive or negative. The energy of the Daila Lama is very different from the energy of a terrorist. Also your energy will attract the same kind of energy (frequency) – therefore when you start your day with negative thoughts, your response to your thoughts will create your emotions and therefore your series of experience and of course influence the experience of others too.
I’d like to invite you to first take a much closer look at: what kind of person do you want to be in the world? How would you like to perceive yourself? Then start acting on it.
Since it’s part of our human nature to help one another out or else we will die as species….I’d love to help us all come up with act of kindness ideas where we can all create a very positive RIPPLE effect in our lives and in everyone else’s too.
101 WAYS TO BE KIND TO OTHERS
- Clear up your house from things that you may not need anymore (even better – see if you have doubles of anything) and give them to someone in need
- Buy lunch for a homeless person
- Sit and chat with a homeless person – ask them how they are, what they need, listen to them and their life story
- Call a friend that you haven’t talked to in a very long time
- Listen to people around you without talking about yourself or without trying to fix their situation
- Write a letter for everyone in your family and tell each person 50 things you love about them
- Sponsor a child for 25-30 dollars a month – check out unbound.org
- Adopt a pet
- Save an insect’s or any animal’s life instead of killing it for no good reason
- Don’t cut off people while driving – instead let them pass and pray for them
- Pray for someone’s happiness every day and set it as a reminder on your phone too
- Surprise a family with clothes and food
- Donate your old clothes to a shelter or someone in need
- SMILE while walking and talking
- Say hello to people you pass (even if they don’t respond)
- Pick up trash from the street (And please don’t trash the streets either)
- Turn off the lights in your house – use as minimal lights as possible to help save energy (Same for AC, heater and so on)
- Reduce your red meat intake – studies show that 1/2lb burger is equivalent to 200 hours of 60w of lightbulb use
- Buy a hybrid car
- We are all good at something (even if it was washing the dishes) – give your talent for free to someone who needs it
- Offer to help
- Say thank you to your partner and kids very often
- Tell your partner what you love about them – compliment them every day (Same for your kids)
- Listen to your partner when he/she is talking about a problem – simply say the magical words: I’m sorry you’re going through this (instead of trying to fix the problem)
- Adopt a pet (or pets)
- Help a lost dog find home
- Foster a child
- Join a non profit organization or volunteer with them for free (most rewarding experience for me personally)
- Chat with a cashier – ask them about their day (Same for anyone who is serving you)
- Give a big tip
- Buy motivational books and pass them on to strangers
- Give flowers to people on the street
- Forgive someone from your past (even better – forgive everyone)
- Make amends for your mistakes
- Pay for someone’s gas at a gas station
- Write a motivational letter and post it in a public bathroom
- Tell your mother and father how much you love them
- Bring food to work
- Cook a nice meal and surprise your neighbor with it
- Give your neighbor a nice loving card along with a nice bouquet of flowers
- Put a quarter in an expired meter
- Buy food or coffee for people behind you If you’re doing a drive through
- Email or write an old teacher a nice thank you note
- Talk to someone who is an introvert or shy
- Buy your friend lunch or dinner
- Let the person behind you at the supermarket pass before you
- Help an old person finish their task
- Take an elderly out for dinner, walk or whatever they desire
- Hug more often
- Stop judging other religions and turn your focus inward
- Meditate – you’ll do yourself and everyone a favor 🙂
- Put positive sticky notes in random places
- Let other people have your parking space
- Give a compliment to a stranger
- Help new parents or single parents
- Tutor poor kids for free
- Stop blaming others for your experience – take responsibility instead
- Donate dog or cat food to a shelter
- Carpool as much as possible
- Buy christmas gifts for a poor family
- Donate to save the lives of pregnant dogs
- Help someone carry their grocery bags
- Hold the door for someone
- Hold your anger back instead of reacting to it
- Work and take responsibility of your own issues (no one needs to deal with them)
- Sponsor a monk (dreprung.com)
- Send holiday cards to your loved ones
- Put your phone away and BE present with your loved one
- Be honest with others (and yourself)
- Be yourself completely without pretense
- Stop complaining
- Say YES to people who ask for help
- Give your partner a nice massage
- Listen to your kids as if they’re your teachers
- Give up being right – choose kindness/peace instead
- Be kind to your body – feed yourself healthy food
- Give your soul food for thoughts every day
- Allow others to be vulnerable around you (give yourself that permission too)
- Don’t interrupt when someone is speaking
- Allow your kids to be who they want to be without fixing them
- Be picky with the words you use (better to stay silent at times)
- Say sorry if you hurt someone
- Pay for someone’s groceries
- Tell your boss what you appreciate about them genuinely
- Learn more about the climate change and become an activist for it
- Help a pregnant woman with her groceries
- Avoid gossip of any kind
- Give someone a second chance
- Give someone a 10 dollar bill and ask them to invest it
- Create meaningful traditions for the holidays that will make people happier (one thing we’re doing this year is asking people to say 3 things they love about each person who is present in the room)
- Say I love you silently to strangers
- Remind yourself that we all desire to be happy (even if other people’s actions don’t make sense to you)
- Help an addict
- Be a big brother or sister to someone
- Mentor someone for free
- Write your partner a love letter and leave it on the bed (perfect if you’re traveling)
- Leave your partner love notes in unexpected places such as lunch bag
- Look people in the eyes and smile
- Find the goodness/gift in every situation
- Donate your old phone or computer
- Most importantly – Please help the refugee crisis and more than 50,000 people trapped in Aleppo… Here are few links:1. Support the White Helmets.
2. Support Doctors Without Borders.
3. Support the Syrian American Medical Society.
4. Support the International Rescue Committee.
5. Support Save the Children.
6. Support refugees.
Now it’s your turn, what are some of the acts of kindness that you’ve done or plan to do? Please share with us and help spread the word.