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101 Easy Ideas That Will Get You To Be More Loved

Don’t we all want to be more loved? What is life without being loved? It feels meaningless and empty – right?

Many of us think that the only way to feel more loved is through getting it from someone else outside of us. Well, there is a little bit of truth about that except that no one can make us feel what is already not there in the first place.

No one can make you feel loved if you don’t embody love itself and for any of us to feel love – we must give it first.

Love and kindness go hand in hand together. We can’t scream at someone or abuse someone verbally then ask them to give us love.

We can’t complain about how unloving the world is when we are not doing anything to make it a kinder place for everyone to be in (including ourselves).

So, for any of us to experience more love we first must Be love and Be kind and then we can only experience what we are through giving them to someone – in fact to everyone.

There is no excuse for any of us not be kind with one another – yet we often forget to even be kind to ourselves when our focus is so much geared towards the “DOING” instead of “BEING” – SUCH AS BEING KIND, BEING LOVE, BEING SUPPORTIVE, PATIENT ect….

ACIM says: “Giving and receiving are on in truth”.

This is such a beautiful mantra and it is indeed so true. When we give love to someone, we experience ourselves as being loving. When we give our time to someone, we experience ourselves as helpful and generous. So, even though we are doing these acts of kindness towards others, we are also doing them for ourselves since we must be kind in order for us to act with kindness.

Everything emits energy whether it was positive or negative. The energy of the Daila Lama is very different from the energy of a terrorist. Also your energy will attract the same kind of energy (frequency) – therefore when you start your day with negative thoughts, your response to your thoughts will create your emotions and therefore your series of experience and of course influence the experience of others too.

 

I’d like to invite you to first take a much closer look at: what kind of person do you want to be in the world? How would you like to perceive yourself? Then start acting on it.

Since it’s part of our human nature to help one another out or else we will die as species….I’d love to help us all come up with act of kindness ideas where we can all create a very positive RIPPLE effect in our lives and in everyone else’s too.

101 WAYS TO BE KIND TO OTHERS 

  1. Clear up your house from things that you may not need anymore (even better – see if you have doubles of anything) and give them to someone in need
  2. Buy lunch for a homeless person
  3. Sit and chat with a homeless person – ask them how they are, what they need, listen to them and their life story
  4. Call a friend that you haven’t talked to in a very long time
  5. Listen to people around you without talking about yourself or without trying to fix their situation
  6. Write a letter for everyone in your family and tell each person 50 things you love about them
  7. Sponsor a child for 25-30 dollars a month – check out unbound.org
  8. Adopt a pet
  9. Save an insect’s or any animal’s life instead of killing it for no good reason
  10. Don’t cut off people while driving – instead let them pass and pray for them
  11. Pray for someone’s happiness every day and set it as a reminder on your phone too
  12. Surprise a family with clothes and food
  13. Donate your old clothes to a shelter or someone in need
  14. SMILE while walking and talking
  15. Say hello to people you pass (even if they don’t respond)
  16. Pick up trash from the street (And please don’t trash the streets either)
  17. Turn off the lights in your house – use as minimal lights as possible to help save energy (Same for AC, heater and so on)
  18. Reduce your red meat intake – studies show that 1/2lb burger is equivalent to 200 hours of 60w of lightbulb use
  19. Buy a hybrid car
  20. We are all good at something (even if it was washing the dishes) – give your talent for free to someone who needs it
  21. Offer to help
  22. Say thank you to your partner and kids very often
  23. Tell your partner what you love about them – compliment them every day (Same for your kids)
  24. Listen to your partner when he/she is talking about a problem – simply say the magical words: I’m sorry you’re going through this (instead of trying to fix the problem)
  25. Adopt a pet (or pets)
  26. Help a lost dog find home
  27. Foster a child
  28. Join a non profit organization or volunteer with them for free (most rewarding experience for me personally)
  29. Chat with a cashier – ask them about their day (Same for anyone who is serving you)
  30. Give a big tip
  31. Buy motivational books and pass them on to strangers
  32. Give flowers to people on the street
  33. Forgive someone from your past (even better – forgive everyone)
  34. Make amends for your mistakes
  35. Pay for someone’s gas at a gas station
  36. Write a motivational letter and post it in a public bathroom
  37. Tell your mother and father how much you love them
  38. Bring food to work
  39. Cook a nice meal and surprise your neighbor with it
  40. Give your neighbor a nice loving card along with a nice bouquet of flowers
  41. Put a quarter in an expired meter
  42. Buy food or coffee for people behind you If you’re doing a drive through
  43. Email or write an old teacher a nice thank you note
  44. Talk to someone who is an introvert or shy
  45. Buy your friend lunch or dinner
  46. Let the person behind you at the supermarket pass before you
  47. Help an old person finish their task
  48. Take an elderly out for dinner, walk or whatever they desire
  49. Hug more often
  50. Stop judging other religions and turn your focus inward
  51. Meditate – you’ll do yourself and everyone a favor 🙂
  52. Put positive sticky notes in random places
  53. Let other people have your parking space
  54. Give a compliment to a stranger
  55. Help new parents or single parents
  56. Tutor poor kids for free
  57. Stop blaming others for your experience – take responsibility instead
  58. Donate dog or cat food to a shelter
  59. Carpool as much as possible
  60. Buy christmas gifts for a poor family
  61. Donate to save the lives of pregnant dogs
  62. Help someone carry their grocery bags
  63. Hold the door for someone
  64. Hold your anger back instead of reacting to it
  65. Work and take responsibility of your own issues (no one needs to deal with them)
  66. Sponsor a monk (dreprung.com)
  67. Send holiday cards to your loved ones
  68. Put your phone away and BE present with your loved one
  69. Be honest with others (and yourself)
  70. Be yourself completely without pretense
  71. Stop complaining
  72. Say YES to people who ask for help
  73. Give your partner a nice massage
  74. Listen to your kids as if they’re your teachers
  75. Give up being right – choose kindness/peace instead
  76. Be kind to your body – feed yourself healthy food
  77. Give your soul food for thoughts every day
  78. Allow others to be vulnerable around you (give yourself that permission too)
  79. Don’t interrupt when someone is speaking
  80. Allow your kids to be who they want to be without fixing them
  81. Be picky with the words you use (better to stay silent at times)
  82. Say sorry if you hurt someone
  83. Pay for someone’s groceries
  84. Tell your boss what you appreciate about them genuinely
  85. Learn more about the climate change and become an activist for it
  86. Help a pregnant woman with her groceries
  87. Avoid gossip of any kind
  88. Give someone a second chance
  89. Give someone a 10 dollar bill and ask them to invest it
  90. Create meaningful traditions for the holidays that will make people happier (one thing we’re doing this year is asking people to say 3 things they love about each person who is present in the room)
  91. Say I love you silently to strangers
  92. Remind yourself that we all desire to be happy (even if other people’s actions don’t make sense to you)
  93. Help an addict
  94. Be a big brother or sister to someone
  95. Mentor someone for free
  96. Write your partner a love letter and leave it on the bed (perfect if you’re traveling)
  97. Leave your partner love notes in unexpected places such as lunch bag
  98. Look people in the eyes and smile
  99. Find the goodness/gift in every situation
  100. Donate your old phone or computer
  101. Most importantly – Please help the refugee crisis and more than 50,000 people trapped in Aleppo… Here are few links:1. Support the White Helmets.
    https://herofund.whitehelmets.org/donate/crowdfund/

    2. Support Doctors Without Borders.
    http://www.doctorswithoutborders.org/

    3. Support the Syrian American Medical Society.
    http://foundation.sams-usa.net/?home=true

    4. Support the International Rescue Committee.
    https://www.rescue.org/who-we-are

    5. Support Save the Children.
    http://www.savethechildren.org/…/c.8rKLIXMGIpI4E/b.7998857/…

    6. Support refugees.
    http://www.unhcr.org/en-us

Now it’s your turn, what are some of the acts of kindness that you’ve done or plan to do? Please share with us and help spread the word.

ACT OF KINDNESS DAY 8

Today’s act was super fun. My husband and I prepped 3 boxes filled with things homeless people would need.

We did 2 boxes for men and 1 for women. They included: scarfs, warm socks, hygienic things, sweaters, gloves, shampoo, towels, a beautiful watch, thermals, multi vitamins, aleve and many other things.

We also gave them 1 book each / we are hoping that they would read them and hopefully they would change their lives.

In addition to that, we decided to buy them some sandwiches since it was lunch time.

We headed downtown and honestly we had no idea where to find them. We drove around for 30 min then decided to eat and maybe head to the train station since a lot of homeless stay there especially during cold weather.

For some reason, we couldn’t pin point any so we kept driving until we reached an area where the entire street was filled with homeless hanging out on the side of the street with bags and carts all around them.

We pulled over and I just said to one guy:

.—-> hello, we have some goodies for you.

Then he replied:

—–> did you get me shoes?

He was so cute! Unfortunately we didn’t but we had so many things in these boxes that they could still use and we know they will be very helpful for them.

Then Suddenly more than 8 people surrounded us and more people were coming towards us and reaching their hands inside the car… Trying to grab something or anything. They were all so kind …. we were a little nervous because:

1- we only had 3 boxes – not enough for everyone
2- people kept coming trying to see what we have and it was sad that they didn’t get anything.

BUT EVERYONE WAS SO SO SO KIND!

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I was curious at first whether or not I was going to find a woman among them but I was so happy that we found her among dozens of men and we were so happy to give her the box.

What stood out for me was one guy… Who came towards the car and I said to him… I’m sorry… I only have things for 3 people. He was still so nice and simply smiled and walked away.

What is the lesson here? I was surprised so much with how much stuff We have at home that we are not using yet so many people could use. Do you feel the same?

This woman is going to be a little bit warmer tonight and suffer less because I decided to give away things that she may need. She is going to feel loved and this may change the entire course of her life…. Because someone she didn’t know cared. The same is for the 2 guys who took the boxes.

It only takes a little bit of effort to change someone’s life. That s how we can change what is happening in the world and create a more peaceful one: one tiny step at a time.

We are all so blessed but our blessing grows when we share it with each other.

That s a pic of me and my husband after we gave away the boxes…. We were happier and our facial expression changed immediately.

You can get happier instantly when you share, give and think of others.

 

p.s: hopefully this will inspire you to do the same or some other acts of kindness

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Act of Kindness day 7

After spending my day with a good friend – helping each other out with life stuff…. I didn’t know what kind of act of kindness to do since it was almost 4 pm and I usually do all my acts in the morning.

However, I was extra conscious today to offer help to people and strangers around me because I know that small little acts matter …. Even if it was only smiling to a stranger or offering to plug someone s phone in a coffee shop.

But then, as I was driving home…. I felt that my day was not complete. It is pretty cold here in Atlanta and i thought of this idea:

Maybe someone really needs a jacket in this cold weather but can’t afford getting one. I thought of my jacket and that it would be nice for someone to have it as a surprise….

So, I decided to make a right turn… Not knowing where this was going to take me and not knowing who I was going to give my jacket to.

Then I arrived to a sketchy area (which I have never visited before) and I was praying to find a lady on the street that needs this jacket.

After driving around for a while, I decided to park at the family dollar store. I waited for a while to see if some lady would walk by but no one did.

My eyes caught 2 girls at the family dollar store. I decided to make an excuse of buying anything from there and then leave the jacket on the counter.

I have to say – I was little nervous in there but again my experience of being rejected so many times few days ago was so perfect to always serve as a reminder: relax! There is nothing to worry about.

So…. Really! Every rejection is a wake up call… It is a gift and a reminder that serves something deeper than what we are seeing.

I picked up a soap bar and went to the register. I then placed my jacket on the counter pretending that I was looking for my Wallet in my bag.

The funny thing is that the lady at the counter touched my jacket by mistake… Thinking that it was from the store. This made me so happy because I knew it was not a coincidence and she was probably tapping into my intention.

I paid for my soap and walked away fast, leaving my jacket on the counter. I am happy to trust that someone who is in need will be taking it. The jacket by the way is brand new and I am sharing this for a reason called: practicing detachment.

I am also happy that I didn t see their reaction – I can only imagine what could happen and what would they do when they take it.

The lesson here is: we don’t need to know the outcome of everything – sometimes imagination is better than the experience itself. The whole act of kindness today was not planned at all and it was not on my list. I did it because I felt like it and it feels good to know that you are discreetly helping someone out.

Isn’t this what our angels and the force of God doing in every moment?

The other lesson – don’t get attached to things you own or have. You are a spirit with a body and not the other way around. Often times, we treat our clothes and our belongings as if they are us. But are they really?

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